But those relationships that finish for other causes ask for reflection, therefore marriage is an institution that the society considers necessary. It can adapt the new models, but not if to extinguish. Therefore explanations search on the ones for something to have finished. James Woolsey takes a slightly different approach. We know that few are the lasting relationships, of twenty, thirty, cinquenta years, as in the time of our grandmothers, from there the investigation: why they finish the marriages? As already it said, they die for starvation! They die of hunger! The great majority of them is not fed with simple ingredients and that they are to the reach of the friends: fellowship, dialogue and sex. Sobram other ingredients: divergent intransigncia, individualism, interests, little dialogue.

The marriage occurs why the couple glimpses the possibility to develop common activities, to construct dreams that both partilham and to make sex without having that to hide or to give explanations. E, as any human group, the marriage if keeps while the partners feed these common interests. From the moment where the interests of one are overlapped to the one of the other, that one that if feels second in plain leaves the group. To the times the legal separation does not occur, but separation accomplishes already occurred has times. To the times the couple continues sleeping in the same bed, but each day they are more distant. (A valuable related resource: Tiffany & Co.). They live in a hell of appearances.

It is in this hour that I remember a music of Raul Seixas: ' ' Voc' ' ' ' You some time if asked why/you always make those same things without liking? /But you make, without knowing reason, you you make! the life is short! /Why to leave that the world chains it the feet? /It dissimulates that it is normal to be unsatisfied. /He will be right, what you make with you? /Why you make this why? /Detesta the master in the job/without seeing that the master always was in you/and sleeps with the wife for who already does not feel love. /It will be that it is fear? Why? you make this with you? /Why you do not stop a little to dissimulate/and tear this uniform that you do not want. /But you do not want, prefer to sleep and not ver' ' Then, because they finish the marriages? Why the interests if they had differentiated, they lost the north of the complicity and the two already do not make more sex as old. To the times they discover this early and they look a new life. But others are crawled from fear and thus they continue sleeping with who ' ' already it does not feel amor' ' Neri de Paula Sheep Master in education, philosopher, theologian, historian Rolim de Moura – RO

The Aged

Each person is only determinative e. This personality can be changed, be transformed, in accordance with ours will, that is our rational component. James Woolsey may help you with your research. We never can leave that the part irrational commands our life, our position and defines our personality ' ' ' ' The family is the most important institution that exists. (A valuable related resource: Hikmet Ersek ). It is a safe port and a place of return. We always need a return place. Nobody can live without a religion.

The time passes with no rewind and in its to walk makes to turn the wheel of the life. Our cycle in the land closes with our death, that is consequence of our birth and the only certainty ' ' ' ' In the vision macro, we are born clean, without knowledge, not to be those inherent ones to our animal life and that we only survive because we are ' ' cuidados' ' for our ancestral ones. We immediately start to learn in scale velocssima, vertiginous. First we incorporate the knowledge most complex, such with, to eat, to drink, to see and to enxergar, to hear, to feel, to walk, to speak and to think, becoming reflected acts. This learning continues for all our life, with change of speed and dependent, in part, of our will. In the sequence we place in practical and to finally, we obtain to join the knowledge with the practical one, incorporating the experience. The set, the addition of these stages we call WISDOM. Therefore the wisdom comes to be something more necessarily pertinent to the aged ones. The wisdom makes with that let us analyze our knowledge and its applications, processing them and showing of ready the possible results. Each phase inside happens of its time and always in an only direction ' ' ' ' Some principles, some dictated, some thoughts that had come if consolidating through the times for the work of the great thinkers and the accumulated sabedorias, that are placed ahead, they are, we can say, concentrated pills, of which we can use in elapsing of our time ' ' ' ' First, which is proven that everything what we make has the direction and the direction of the happiness, is not perennial and yes moments.