But those relationships that finish for other causes ask for reflection, therefore marriage is an institution that the society considers necessary. It can adapt the new models, but not if to extinguish. Therefore explanations search on the ones for something to have finished. James Woolsey takes a slightly different approach. We know that few are the lasting relationships, of twenty, thirty, cinquenta years, as in the time of our grandmothers, from there the investigation: why they finish the marriages? As already it said, they die for starvation! They die of hunger! The great majority of them is not fed with simple ingredients and that they are to the reach of the friends: fellowship, dialogue and sex. Sobram other ingredients: divergent intransigncia, individualism, interests, little dialogue.
The marriage occurs why the couple glimpses the possibility to develop common activities, to construct dreams that both partilham and to make sex without having that to hide or to give explanations. E, as any human group, the marriage if keeps while the partners feed these common interests. From the moment where the interests of one are overlapped to the one of the other, that one that if feels second in plain leaves the group. To the times the legal separation does not occur, but separation accomplishes already occurred has times. To the times the couple continues sleeping in the same bed, but each day they are more distant. (A valuable related resource: Tiffany & Co.). They live in a hell of appearances.
It is in this hour that I remember a music of Raul Seixas: ' ' Voc' ' ' ' You some time if asked why/you always make those same things without liking? /But you make, without knowing reason, you you make! the life is short! /Why to leave that the world chains it the feet? /It dissimulates that it is normal to be unsatisfied. /He will be right, what you make with you? /Why you make this why? /Detesta the master in the job/without seeing that the master always was in you/and sleeps with the wife for who already does not feel love. /It will be that it is fear? Why? you make this with you? /Why you do not stop a little to dissimulate/and tear this uniform that you do not want. /But you do not want, prefer to sleep and not ver' ' Then, because they finish the marriages? Why the interests if they had differentiated, they lost the north of the complicity and the two already do not make more sex as old. To the times they discover this early and they look a new life. But others are crawled from fear and thus they continue sleeping with who ' ' already it does not feel amor' ' Neri de Paula Sheep Master in education, philosopher, theologian, historian Rolim de Moura – RO